It's not your fault

When I was waiting for my wayward period to come back after a medical treatment I had as a child, I was told (being in eighth grade) that it would probably come back if I just wasn't so stressed out.

This was told to me in the confines of a hospital where I had been part of an experimental treatment for several years. After I had undergone daily injections for several years. After countless tests could not explain why I was not "normal." Sure. No stress there.

In the end it was discovered that I had premature ovarian failure. Again, inexplicable. But no one hypothesized after that that if I had cut my stress back, there would have been a different outcome.

Why is it that infertility has to be someone's fault? There is a study posted over on Twitter that infertility could be related somehow to being overweight. Well no pressure there, right? If a couple can't get pregnant it's because they're trying to hard. You're not eating the right kind of foods. You're too high-strung. You're too overweight.

Being diagnosed with infertility is tough enough. Do we really need to lay blame? Where is the care in the medical profession for the power of this kind of diagnosis? I have yet to see it, sadly. I'd be happy to hear about different kinds of experiences.